Why is it?
Here is my question for the month.
Why is it that male and females find it so difficult to express themselves when they like someone of the opposite sex? Why don't we just blurt it out, what are we afraid of?
Is it because of experience or are we just not willing to spill our emotions ie: fear of failure seems outweigh risks.
And this goes for anything in life, we are too comfortable we need to get out of our comfort zones and actually do something. Arrrgh.
Why is it that male and females find it so difficult to express themselves when they like someone of the opposite sex? Why don't we just blurt it out, what are we afraid of?
Is it because of experience or are we just not willing to spill our emotions ie: fear of failure seems outweigh risks.
And this goes for anything in life, we are too comfortable we need to get out of our comfort zones and actually do something. Arrrgh.
posted by Chuckster at 4:41 AM
9 Comments:
hey Chuck....guess what all the lights in my house flicked off...now its all very romantic here.
I reckon its coz it means we put ourselves on the line for rejection. If we don't ever say what we feel we can't be hurt...but if we do say and they don't feel the same then we feel like a jackarse. (one day i'll tell the story about the girl who turned me down)
Hey what do you think of this Chuck....Jesus dieing on the cross is what he does to say to the whole world i want to be in a relationship with you....and he puts himself on the line to be rejected or accepted by people...i think its prety gutsy.
he certainly was and if we really want to follow Jesus we should be doing the same
I agree with Trav here...
but felt I also had to add stuff.
Theres the rejection stuff, and then theres the unknown stuff. Like
'What affect will she have on me, and I on her?'
'Will she still like me when she finds out what I'm really like?' (Almost everyone puts on a 'front', only revealing their true colours to those they are closest to).
A fear can have us asking all sorts of questions, and I think this a good thing, we might realise things we may never have thought about without having this stimulus.
There are a lot of variables which cause people to stay quiet. I also believe that before a relationship commences you need to fix as many of your own problems before you commit to anything.
Another thing I firmly believe is that a relationship will grow to a point where asking the other out, or expressing the way you feel becomes implicit, and those things simply fall into formality, where its implied, and known but still done anyway.
I'll leave you on a thought from me to you:
'Love is the only emotion which requires you to think about someone else before, and more than yourself'
Probably a little late I know ;-) :)
I have to say that you can go out with another person of the opposite sex and not love them but merely like them.
But what you have to say is accurate and thank you
Hey Chuck...informed sources tell me that perhaps there might be a few romantic dinners happening in your part of town....care to shed any light on that?
Chuck, I agree, you can 'go out' with someone and only 'like' them; but really - whats the point?
Take this for example: you have a fruit tree in your garden, and you pick the fruit knowing full well that you won't eat it, because its not your favourite fruit - why plant that particular tree in the first place? Wouldn't you be much happier with a fruit you could enjoy?
'Like' is a weak word, and I believe it should be never used to describe a dating relationship, sure it CAN be used, but it shouldn't be used to describe how you feel about someone.
When you think about it, society has twisted words and given them new meaning - its easier to like than to love. This makes it easier to find someone of the opposite sex to have a relationship with, we've twisted the words for a reason - it gives us a better chance.
You can 'like' chocolate or ice cream - but if its what a relationship is based on, then it will NEVER last. A relationship requires a firm foundation, much like our personal lives.
You never hear someone say "I have fallen in like with her".
I want you to know that I am not flawing your descisions, I am just offering you my opinion, its not based on fact or experience - its just my personal view. It is up to you whether you take the advice on board or not...
sorry about the length of these posts - they are almost blogs in themselves!
Tim, you gotta a lot of good things to say.....now when you have good things to say...say them on your own blog and then crap on when on someone elses.............lalala
hehe, yes trav that is correct many romantic dinners are instore for some of us (including me).
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