Respect
Back in my day ... - Your Grandfather
Respect is the key in society today, many older people command it from the younger generation but do they deserve it?
Can you command respect or do you earn it?
Where is the respect of the younger generation from the older generation? The lack of respect to the younger generation has to eminate from somewhere, It definately comes from tv and friends but there is still they way the older generation who does not know the teenager treats him/her like a three year old.
If we treat people like children they will be children and act like children. Treat younger people like an adults they will behave like adults.
Anyway respect is where you are willing to give someone the benefit of the doubt when they do something stupid.
Respect is the willingness to disagree about what someone says but not kill them for it.
We have a lot to learn and we can learn if we listen and respect each other. If you do disagree with me show some respect and argue.
Respect is the key in society today, many older people command it from the younger generation but do they deserve it?
Can you command respect or do you earn it?
Where is the respect of the younger generation from the older generation? The lack of respect to the younger generation has to eminate from somewhere, It definately comes from tv and friends but there is still they way the older generation who does not know the teenager treats him/her like a three year old.
If we treat people like children they will be children and act like children. Treat younger people like an adults they will behave like adults.
Anyway respect is where you are willing to give someone the benefit of the doubt when they do something stupid.
Respect is the willingness to disagree about what someone says but not kill them for it.
We have a lot to learn and we can learn if we listen and respect each other. If you do disagree with me show some respect and argue.
posted by Chuckster at 8:44 PM
6 Comments:
Respect, yes it is important.
I believe that no one can command respect, respect MUST be earned.
That, one must 'prove' themselves to another in order to be respected.
If someone acts like a three year old, I'm not going to give them my respect - whether they think the deserve it or not!
This behaviour doesn't stem from how they are being or have been treated. It's no used blaming an external entity for something that's going on internally.
Me treating someone with respect doesn't mean that they will instantly reciprocate that and start respecting me. Someone who acts like a three year old needs to learn respect before they can give it.
So, no, treating someone with respect doesn't necessarily make them behave like adults. There are quite a number of examples that support this.
Anyway, back to the topic. Respect is, I believe, mutual. That I respect someone, and they respect me.
The only people where this 'rule' doesn't hold true, are those whom hold a leadership position. Leaders should be respected, purely because of the position they have been given.
All I can say is that younger generations will never see the respect they want, simply because they go the wrong way about it. They cry and pout, kill themselves and others, trying to constantly fit and not becoming themselves.
Until this changes, we can safely say that will remain respectless.
Respect is vital to leadership, that you can have subordinates follow you no matter how silly or trivial the task.
Anyway, thats all I have to say today, might add some more in another post.
I wouldn't really say that TV causes younger people to disrespect older people. I think it's more like television shows what society is like (although of course it's not possible for it to be entirely accurate) but that television in turn shapes society.
I agree with Switch that as a general rule respect needs to be earn't and grown.
I think people should respect their leaders simply due to their position. But i think a leader would be naive to expect people to show him extreme amounts of respect just coz he's in charge. Respect and Leadership is a very interesting topic.
"There are a number of examples to support this" ....clearly they couldn't find their way to into the comment section.
My experience of leading people has taught me that as a general rule you show someone respect. Treat them as a capable person. Listen to them, consider their views, give them responsibilities their excited about and a lot of the time they act a whole lot older then their age.
Treat them like they need to be babied..and they act childish. So i'd agree with your point Chuck. I grant you there may be cases where this doesnt stand true but i'd like to see them.
I agree with Chris that TV both reflects and shapes society. I wouldn't say it's an accurate reflection however...I'd say it is more extreme then society is (Because TV is trying to engage interest)
I refrained from writing specifics in my prior comment as you are both aware of the example I would use. There are other examples I can think of, but will not list them here for the same reasons. I don't believe this is the time nor place to do such. As a leader yourself, you should be able to respect that.
Neither have you given any specifics in support of your argument. The lack thereof, doesn't then mean that I was lying or otherwise misleading people.
Whether your experience has taught it or not doesn't necessarily make it true in all instances, and I appreciate your acknowledgement of that.
There are exceptions to every 'rule'. I know there are people who you can treat with respect and they will act older than their age.I believe this is more often than not, I believe this is just a reflection on their ability to realise the serious from the not-so-serious.
In that, one can recognise when they need to grow up and act their age (or beyond), whilst others do not. It's these others to whom I was referring, those who regardless of treatment remain constant in their attitudes and actions (or lack thereof).
I agree with you Trav when you say that one in leadership should never exploit their position to try and gain large amounts of respect.
With leadership, I believe there is a level of respect which the position commands, but then there is the respect that the leader earns. So, respect can still depend on the person, it's just that we need to respect the position first.
I am only offering opinion based on experience - I am more than happy to accept it if anything I say is incorrect. Until proven otherwise, I will continue to believe it.
'With leadership, I believe there is a level of respect which the position commands, but then there is the respect that the leader earns.'
Well this depends on what kind of leader is being spoken of. One might be holding the official position of leader, but if they aren't followed, and aren't respected, having the title alone doesn't make them a leader.
'In that, one can recognise when they need to grow up and act their age (or beyond), whilst others do not. It's these others to whom I was referring, those who regardless of treatment remain constant in their attitudes and actions (or lack thereof).'
Mmm. Is it really respect if it's only used to try and effect change in another?
First point - agreed, but I still think that the title should carry some level of respect - regardless of the person.
second point, I think I was misunderstood, or maybe I just don't understand the question.
I wasn't saying that was an example of respect, or how to get it - but rather an 'illusion' of respect.
Saying that people gain respect when given it doesn't hold true, and that was what I was saying with that statement.
What I was trying to explain is that when shown respect, some people do act their age, or older and respond to the situations. Others, do not.
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